If You’ve Got it, Love it

Ladies, let’s be real, body shaming has become a huge part of our society lately. Be it, Lady Gaga’s little tummy fat during the halftime show (which I think is silly! Girl, you rocked it, and you’re gorgeous!) or just hurtful comments on social media, the body shaming needs to stop.

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Being a model isn’t the easiest job, and the stereotypes about it are off the charts. A model can be any size and still be beautiful, in my opinion.

In modeling, you will be told no multiple times throughout your career. Companies may not want size 0 women, or maybe they don’t want tall women. No matter the criticism, your confidence in yourself shouldn’t waiver.

The model inspiration that I most look up to is Miss Ashley Graham. She is a plus size SUPERMODEL, body activist, designer, and much more. Notice how I said she is a supermodel. Graham once stated in an instagram post how she isn’t ashamed of a few lumps, bumps, or cellulite, and you shouldn’t be either.

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This is the inspiration we need, Ladies, to put down body shamers. With everything I have learned throughout my growth as a young woman and my past modeling experiences, I have learned a new level of self-love. Yes, I have curves, cellulite, stretch marks, and much more, but I can’t focus on the negatives, and neither should you. Those “imperfections” are what landed me certain jobs I thought I would never get.

Your body is the only one you will ever have, so love it through every step of life. Ladies, let’s not let the body shamers get to us. Don’t let them discourage you. You are beautiful and it is time we take a stand, and instead of shaming, let’s lift each other up with confidence!

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A World Falling Together 

As a tropical storm attacks Haiti and soon to be Florida, we wait and brace for the worst. The only thing to do when feeling helpless, is to pray. It is heartbreaking imagining the homes and families being torn during this disaster, but with the prayer and faith in Jesus Christ, lives can be rebuilt. 

As the Baptist Student Union of my college met up tonight to hang out and worship, the topic of this storm was a reoccurring subject. A weight has been put on the hearts not just in my town, but across the country, for the hurt and sorrow others are facing. There are many ways to help, but one way that is free and easy of access is prayer. I say this with a very heavy heart, please join me in prayer for our hurting friends across the country and in Haiti. 

We can all give our opinions on this topic, but in summary, our world is lacking the love and compassion it needs in order to survive. With this (unfortunate) opportunity, we can pray for our friends and show them the love and compassion they need right now! We can stand up, hand in hand, and bring our world together in the name of the one true God. 

National Coffee Day

First thing I woke up to was an email from Starbucks saying “Happy National Coffee Day”, and boy, could I have been any happier.

As a college student, it is a necessity to have coffee available 24/7. During a stressful week at school, I am up to four or more cups of coffee a day. Coffee is perfect for keeping me focused and on task.

Today, in honor of National Coffee Day, I made my coffee this morning (black with a little bit of creamer) before class, then went to Starbucks after work and tried the Pumpkin Spice Frappuccino. I would have gotten the famous Pumpkin Spice Latte, but hot drinks aren’t really a favorite of mine, unless it is my home-brewed hot coffee. Let me just brag a little and say it was SO GOOD! If you have heard about these Fall drinks, but are skeptical that they’ll taste good (like I was), you need to head to the nearest Starbucks and grab one for yourself. You won’t be sorry!

The Perfect Man?

As the seasons move from Summer to Fall, the questioning begins. My family wants the best for me, like most families would, so indeed the relationship questions appear about this time every year. When will you be seeing someone? Will you bring him home to meet the family? And, of course, the nagging comments such as, “you should get out there more”, “be more adventurous”, and the oh-so-famous “maybe you just aren’t looking in the right places.”

I have come to the conclusion: holidays were made for the couples.

Every week, I am asked where my new boyfriend is, as if people expect the perfect man to fall from heaven. Women, the perfect man cliche simply does not exist, and the holiday seasons are a remorseful reminder of that.

Will this be the season I find love, or yet will I suffer through another year of questions?

 

Independence Day

Happy Independence Day to everyone! I love this holiday, because it brings families together for cookouts, setting off fireworks, and sharing old family memories. One thing that brings joy to my eyes is watching little kids instantly glow at the crashing boom of huge fireworks, but one major factor of this holiday seems to be slipping the minds of most Americans; the men and women to whom we owe this day. I heard this quote earlier on the K-Love radio station and it read, “It is easy to take liberty for granted, when you’ve never had it taken from you.” When I heard this quote, something inside of me broke a little.

As this time of the year approaches, invitations for barbecues are being sent out, decorations are to be put up, and good times are to be had, but what about the remembrance of the men and women who laid down their lives for our freedom and liberty? Tonight, many Americans gathered together to celebrate our independence and set off fireworks. As I watched a wonderful firework show near my hometown, I couldn’t help but think of the men and women overseas who deserve a round of applause. Also, the men and women who have fought for our country, and are now proud veterans. I applaud all of you who laid down you life for my freedom. Thank you to every serviceman and woman, to all of the veterans living amongst us, and to all who have given their lives for our freedom.

19th Birthday

Today I celebrated my 19th birthday, and I have to say, it was not the day I envisioned it to be. This is the first birthday I have had where it has rained, and it did not rain just a little, no, it poured rain all morning. I did not let that get me down! I spent the morning cleaning out the garage and kitchen for my party tomorrow night, and then watched TV with Mom. It was a relaxing morning with my mom, and that is something I am very thankful for. My best friend, Emily, then came to take me to lunch and them shopping. We ate at Panera Bread, and oh my goodness!, their Mac and Cheese is beyond creamy and delicious. I highly recommend it, if you are up for trying something new.

My favorite part of a birthday is getting the “Happy Birthday” texts and Facebook wall posts. I know this isn’t very humble of me to say, but it is nice to see old friends and acquaintances, whom I thought had long forgotten about me, send good vibes my way. One long lost acquaintance, whom I had looked forward to receiving word from, had not send ANY vibes my way. This acquaintance was my own brother. We had fought a lot in the past year, and it resulted in us no longer on speaking terms. This is the hardest thing, I believe, I will ever have to deal with on this day.

After my parents took me out to a wonderful dinner, I came home to watch the movie “How to Be Single”. This movie is a very good watch! Dakota Johnson, the main character, plays a woman who has only ever been with men and hasn’t ever lived the single life. She ends up not only creating new friendships, but learning the true value of knowing yourself before you begin a relationship with another person. It is quite the eye-opener for women in consistent on and off relationships. Plus, it is hilarious and has many attractive men in it!

I must say good bye, as my 19th birthday comes to a close. Thank you to everyone for the birthday wishes and good vibes!

Giving Grace

Let me first say, Christmas is my all-time favorite holiday. The best part, in my opinion, is opening the presents. Not opening presents myself, but watching my loved ones open their presents that I had picked for them, and getting to see the over-joyed look on their faces when they know it is perfect. Giving is very easy for me during this time of year, because I know, that when I have picked out the perfect present, I get to see my family’s over-joyed faces. One thing, though, I have always found myself struggling to give, is grace.

Now, when I say grace, I do not mean the grace of a dancer as she floats across the stage, or how a lion sprints across the safari and gracefully catches its prey. The grace I am speaking of today is more about redemption, than creation. When we find ourselves straying from God’s ways, wanting to make our own choices and choose our own ways, it is known as the Original Sin. This sin can lead us down dark alleyways, broken and confused, but when we ask for God’s help, his amazing grace rescues us. Some of you may know the older hymn Amazing Grace, as it is stated in the song,

“Amazing grace, how sweet the sound,

That saved a wretch like me.

I once was lost but now am found,

Was blind, but now I see.”

God’s grace opens our hearts to see the goodness of his ways, and for us to use that grace upon others also.

When someone does me wrong, my first instinct is to get mad and take revenge. And I am not saying just a little mad. I have been mad enough that by the end of the week, I am planning their funeral, because they are about to meet the good Lord (I’m kidding, of course). The LAST thing I ever want to do, is give them grace. Why should I only show grace, if they have purposely done wrong to me? I had to learn the answer to that question myself, and it was not quite so easy, so I will help out the readers right now.

In Romans 12: 17-21, scripture says, ” ‘17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (ESV)” 

If our enemy still does not see the good after we have given all the grace we can, we must leave them to God’s wrath. “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” It is right for me to show my enemy grace, for my enemy needs to know I am not vengeful, but forgiving, and that I follow a great God, who leads my heart.

As this article has been written, notice I only used first person, and the unified “we”. We have all made mistakes, whether it be last week, forgetting to take out the trash, or yesterday, ripping up a few of Mom’s flowers along with some weeds (oops!), or even this morning, accidentally leaving Chuck E. Cheese without one of your kids, and not noticing until halfway home. Let’s not leave out the mistakes that will undoubtedly happen in the future. One thing I firmly believe is, everyone deserves to be given grace after their mistakes. These questions have been on my mind frequently lately, and I encourage my readers to ponder these questions also: How is it honorable for us, expecting grace for our mistakes, if we do not go into this world and show the true grace of God to others through our actions? Do we deserve the grace we believe to be ours, if we do not show grace to others?